What To Do About the Widows 2015

What To Do About the Widows 2015

By Fred Pruitt

 

Re: 1 Timothy 5:11–15

 But the younger widows refuse: for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ, they will marry;

Having damnation, because they have cast off their first faith.

And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

For some are already turned aside after Satan.

Someone wrote me a while back and wondered why did Paul apparently show a non-faith attitude toward these young “widows” in the church? Why didn’t he say, as we would today, that though these women are being pulled in temptation, still the One within them was strong and would push them through to victory? Paul seems to be saying they will fail in their dedication to Christ, and that their “need” to marry is part of that failure. Pretty harsh words and conclusions from brother Paul!

It would be hard for me to say with conviction what Paul was thinking when he wrote those things. The cultural milieu we (or at least I) live in today has nothing comparable to this situation, so it is impossible for me to understand it from that point of view. Paul’s social “attitudes” were those of his time, and probably much different about a lot of things than ours today; (for instance, he never condemned slavery, a condition which to us is a moral evil and abhorrent to our contemporary minds). So to try to come to any understanding of that passage by the road of Paul’s motivations for writing I think would be a dead-end.

We then look to a more universal answer here, what the Spirit has for us. So I ask this question: why would God express through Paul such “negative” faith toward these people?

Paul does it again in Titus 1:12, 13, when he calls Cretians, i.e. everybody who lives on or is from the island of Crete, “liars, evil beasts, and slow bellies.” I mean, man, what a RACIST thing to say!

And then Jesus calls a Greek “Syrophenician” woman, a DOG, and at first refuses to heal her daughter because it isn’t right to take people-food, He says, and give it to DOGS!
This is our precious Jesus here! Always loving, always kind? And here’s this poor woman in distress and sorrow and great need and he’s calling her a DOG!

That’s why it is so hard to make a systematic theology out of Spirit-living. Jesus said He ALWAYS did what the Father did, so it was the Father calling this woman a dog. Where do you put that in your evangelism techniques outline? How does that fit in with “our” ideas of what is loving and kind? How many “likes” would that get on Jesus’ Facebook page?

I might be tempted to call this “God’s reverse psychology.” Paul saying the young widows were wanton and probably would forsake Christ would serve to stir up in the opposite in those whose hearts and faith would persevere. As in calling Cretians liars and Jesus calling the Syrophenician woman a dog. It stirred FAITH in them. Those who hear with ears KNOW that all that comes to them is from God, because Life is found even in the negative. That is usually where it starts in our consciousness, and rightly so. The negative is the platform upon which the positive builds. Hence her answer.

Yes, Lord,” the Syrophenician woman said, “but even the dogs get the crumbs …” 

I  don’t know what was going through Jesus’ mind when this happened. It may be that He was tired, a bit on edge, had had a rough day, and this woman walked up right at the wrong time and He hit her with His first reaction — that of a racist Jew! (For that is probably how many of the Jews of the time would have talked to her.) He may not even have “consciously” awakened to what was going on until she replied with her persevering faith, and then He saw the hand of the Father, and said, “O woman, great is thy faith: be it unto thee even as thou wilt.”

(When I have shared something like this in the past I’ve had people react negatively to my suggestion that Jesus, “had had a rough day,” or that he was “tired, a bit on edge.” Neither of us could prove our point, but it seems to me that the “real” Jesus was a man with all the frustrations and temptations of a man. He had a body which could tire and a soul which through the stresses of the day gets emotionally weary, etc. He was fully human, was He not? What good would Jesus have been in “identifying” with us, if He did not experience in his soul and body the same things we do? If we can see that He, though He was “The Son,” yet “learned obedience by the things which he suffered,” and God does not impute sin to Jesus even in these negative seemingly “soulish” reactions, then we can see that we are free in our humanity also!)

God sometimes says something He does not mean in order to stir the right “reaction” in us. I know that might make some folks upset, but it is absolutely true. Like when He told Moses to stand aside and He would kill all the children of Israel and start a new race from Moses’ loins. Moses, whose heart was God’s because it was so consumed by the welfare of his people, refused to move aside, and instead Moses offered his own eternal life for theirs. (Exodus 32) That was what God was stirring in Moses and the outcome the Lord sought! His own Spirit of intercession, of “going to hell for others,” operating in Moses – and in all of us!

As a married man, how do you think it affects me when I read Paul’s relegating we married men to sort of second best in serving the Lord, as he apparently does in 1 Cor 7:32,33? I can either say, “Oh well, I’ll leave the spiritual stuff to the unmarried folks, since they have time to deal with it,” or I could say, “I don’t know what you’re talking about, Paul. Because I find that in being concerned with ‘pleasing’ my wife, I am fulfilling what you said about Christ and the Church, how loving your wife is like Christ loving the church, and how we cherish our wives as our own flesh is the same way Christ cherishes us, we who are HIS OWN flesh!”

Always always, God pushes us onward and upward, and let no obstacle, EVEN HIS OWN WORD (as we understand it — that’s why it says “lean not unto thine ‘own’ understanding”), stand in our way. God makes the totality, the completeness, the All in all, of Himself available to every one of us. Every one of us is called. Married or unmarried. Male or female. Rich or poor.

Every one of us has great riches, like the rich young ruler. Those great riches can be the obstacle that stands in the way of Christ being the totality of who we are. We may have the luxury of saying, “Well, I’m a young widow, so I can’t serve Christ fully.” Or, “I’m a married man, so God is thwarted by that, and can’t come fully through a married man.” Or the Syrophenician woman could have agreed with Jesus’ first word to her, and gone on her way with her daughter yet to be healed. She could have let her identity be all wrapped up in being a Syrophenician, and therefore having no right to eat at the table, as Jesus told her.

But the obstacle was not the final word, and NEVER IS! GOD HIMSELF is the final word!! And HE accepts us all in Himself, and the only “thing” we have to offer is our emptiness, our poverty, our nothingness. No matter our station in life, our culture, our race, our education, all of which is dust in the wind. God is found in none of that.

God is found in calling things which be not as though they are. He has selected the weak things and the foolish things to confound the strong and wise.

Bottom line, every one of us is a “young widow,” or a “Cretian” or a “Syrophenician woman.” They that are well do not need a physician, only those who are sick. This is one of my favorite scriptures: “And every one that was in distress, and every one that was in debt, and every one that was discontented, gathered themselves unto him; and he became a captain over them.” (1 Sam 22:2)  Brother, the writer of 1 Samuel has been reading my mail! That’s ME!

But O WHAT GLORY to discover, that in my weakness I am strong. Not despite it, not in place of it, but IN IT!! IN my weakness, I am strong. Someone might protest and say, “Do not say “you” are strong, but “Christ is strong in you.” But that is not what Paul said:  (2 Cor 12:10) “For when I am weak, then am I strong.”

“And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” (2 Cor 12:9) Let us thank God therefore for every “infirmity” touching our lives, whatever it is: indebtedness, grief, fear, confusion, indecision, loneliness, our broken car, our kids calling up with their insurmountable problems, problems in our fellowship or church, problems with our mates or our lack of one, etc etc etc. WHATEVER is a weakness, WHATEVER is an infirmity, there is God’s strength made perfect.

Let me finally say this with as much plainness as I am able. We are not called to anything except to be Christ in our world. That is the meaning of the Incarnation and the meaning of the Cross. He died and rose again that He might live in us and bring many sons unto glory by us. Once the reality of “I am crucified with Christ, nevertheless I live, yet not I, but Christ liveth in me” has overtaken us, there is ONLY Christ.

We have died and risen again IN HIM, not “in ourselves,” and what has emerged from that grave is a completely NEW MAN, a new CREATION, created in RIGHTEOUSNESS after the image of Him who did the creating. What has come forth from the grave is not just a resurrected Jesus, but because He rose, He brought also with Him a Resurrected Humanity, a Humanity which has been raised into the Godhead, which now sits at the right hand of the Father in the midst of the throne.

That Resurrected Humanity in this world has been left in weakness, and not yet seeing all that to which is it heir. But that does not change the FACT that OUR humanity — spirit, soul, and body — IS NOW MADE the INSTRUMENT OF RIGHTEOUSNESS. Not by what we can do, by what we know, by how well we can regurgitate scriptural knowledge and doctrinal precepts, but purely and simply because He has now made us accepted in the Beloved, chosen in Him before the foundations of the earth, and that in Him IN OUR WEAKNESS we are heir to ALL THINGS.

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